Last week I went on holiday to Turkey, which was an amazing holiday with my wife. Obviously because I am a self-employed Mindfulness-based therapist and hypnotherapist I was concerned about my existing and possible new clients not being able to contact me so I ensured I had roaming on my phone and that there was WiFi internet at our hotel. I made the decision to not have roaming internet service as this was a holiday and I wanted to relax, unwind and be mindful with my wife.
When we arrived 9pm on Saturday night I found that the WiFi was only available in the lobby, bar and restaurant of the hotel which was absolutely fine with me. So for the next six days I was only able to check my email and use social media in the morning at breakfast or when we got back to the hotel. I found this very refreshing and mindful as I only spent a few minutes checking my mail in the morning and perhaps 5 minutes in the evening. What struck me was the people who seemed to be constantly on their phones checking Facebook, twitter and other social media. This made me think of clients I have worked with who suffer with Social Media Anxiety Disorder or addiction to social media. How being Mindful in this digital world is becoming more and more difficult when we are in instant contact of everyone else.
Today I have 94 friends on Facebook and that seem’s to be a small number compared to many. How many friends do I really have or how many friends could I really cope with? Dunbar’s Number suggests that the human brain can cope with, maintain 150 social contacts. So how do people with 500 or 1,000 Facebook friends cope?
I am 48 this year and my childhood was very real world, meeting and playing with friends without mobile phones or the internet. I can remember arranging to meet friends at Morden Tube station on Saturday at 9am or going around their houses to see if they could come out to play. Being Mindful is so much harder when there are constant distractions and virtual worlds to be exploring.
So I will continue to use mobile phones and the internet, but will be much more mindful about how much time it takes up and distracts me for.
70% of teenagers say they suffer from NOMO phobia a fear of being without their mobile phone.
FOMO Fear Of Missing Out
On average we check our phones 34 times a day.
Clinical addiction to Facebook and other social media sites is now recognized.
I find myself working with more and more clients who suffer from some of the above